Joshua Ang | Joshua Ang, a Singapore MediaCorp Artist

Anger Management and Me™

by Joshua on Oct.28, 2009, under Day by Day...

I really think I need medical help. A neurologist to be exact. Somethings pretty much wrong with me. I’ve been beggining to feel so short tempered, so angry with things when it doesn’t go my way. I’ve been slamming things. Throwing things. Sheesh, this isn’t me. Even someone close to me asked if i need medical help. 

Time to direct my anger towards people instead of things. Time to focus my energy on answers, not excuses.

No no no, one more D and I’m in trouble.

God help me.

91 comments for this entry:
  1. vannie

    Part of growing up? Maybe u can try spend some time alone doing the things u enjoy or take a short getaway.

    Cheerz

  2. Nii

    At least u r still in control, at least u wanted to get helped.

  3. shihui

    CHEER UP KAYS (:
    BE HAPPY :D DD
    Think of happy memories you had
    with ur fellow friends (:
    Or you could even ask the JAFC out :D
    We can be there to hear ur problems
    and support you all the way !
    This is what a fanclub is for :D
    RIGHTS?

    JIAYOUS !
    LOVE YOU FOREVER <3333

  4. shannon

    haha…ive always seen you as sort of a ‘peaceful’ person. lol. so, there’s another side of you….hmmm

  5. Jovita

    Don’t be so angry. Seriously too. Sometimes I get angry, I throw things on the floor, scold people! But for you, you are the most kind and handsome actor. So don’t get angry. :D Cheers! :)

    You will be better tomorrow. :D Whooo~!! Go for it! :D
    Jia You! ^^

  6. Qisha

    Dont think too much.Will be fine:) Should be the sign of stress&it leads to mood-swing.Dont stress yourself too much,you’ll be fine:)Dont worry.jus give yourself more time,you’ll be able to cope with it:D

  7. 3mily

    hahax… chill! cool down… maybe u are stressed….. RELAX RELAX!!!

  8. yl

    Glad you chose not to suppress your anger though. :) To get over it, find the root of the problem. Goodluck! :D

  9. sinyue

    Jia you alrite??? Anythin juz rmbr tt u still hav us supportin u n standin behind u!!! I’m sure u ll be able to learn to control it somehow… Jia you Joshua!! N any events pls let us noe ok??? Jia you jia you!!! SMILE and take care!!! =)

  10. Daphhy

    Chill man^,~
    Direct your anger to something useful.
    If you’re feeling kind of “stuffy” in there,chill with your friends or perhaps approach someone you’re comfortable with and pour everything out.
    Don’t let your anger overtake you!
    Well,somethings in life aren’t going to be smooth and these are the things we have to face.
    Yet it’s all depend on how we cope with it.
    So why coping it by making oneself angry?
    Take up the challenge/face the matter with perseverance^^
    You can do it! Believe in yourself.:D

  11. Airka

    Next time when you are angry or feel like you can’t control the temper…try to count to ten or even to 100 before you act.

  12. d

    mm if you know why you’ve been acting out, then yeah. maybe it’s time to settle it by talking it out rather than throwing things yeah? it’s something i struggle with too, but i suppose we just have to pray for extra grace.

    proverbs 25:28 (:

  13. ting

    learn to distract yourself from the source of anger. look at the purpose of behind it and if you are absolutely right, hold on to it.

  14. Nana

    I believe the correct term is not medical help… Since your problem can’t probably be on the medical side, I reckon it has got to do more with the psychosocial aspect… Don’t hesitate to ask if you got more queries…

  15. isaac

    lol, dude…. the replies you get.. i’m starting to get the feeling you’ll still be praised and adorned with support even if you become a murderer one day…..
    seriously…grow up…. before you hurt those around you..
    you display your inability to do anything bout it by pleading for help… but have you humbled yourself enuff to receive it….
    I bet i’ll get hammered by posting this….
    to be fair… the comments are directed more to myself than you actually… feel free to ignore them..

  16. J.B.

    Hang in there alright? it may not seem that way but everything’s in God’s hands, and everything will be fine.

    Will be praying for you dude.

  17. casper

    try to direct your anger on sports.. like boxing..

  18. Rebecca

    Joshua, just pray and ask God to comfort you. Just sit down, close your eyes and pray, you’ll feel more peaceful. Ask God to help you, everyone has temper problems, it’s the way you release your anger…
    God bless you

    Rebecca

  19. Rebecca

    Hey, me again. Can’t help thinking about what you said in your post. You don’t need help from any neurologist. You don’t need medical help, you need spiritual help. It’s ok to feel angry at some times. If I’m not mistaken, you’re a Christian, aren’t you? I am. I’ll pray for you. But you need to talk to God yourself.
    All the best. I’m with you all the way!

    Rebecca

  20. Hannah

    O.o
    Next time when angry that time drink water and relax urself.
    Den drink liao count 1-10 ! ^^
    Relax le ! :-D
    I used to have anger management too and i was taught to use sucha method :-D
    Try it alrights !
    Anw , JY !

  21. Joshua

    First things first Isaac, I’m not your dude. Secondly, seeking medical help is not a from of plea. Please post conducive comments and if you are out to beat me down, it doesn’t make me look bad nor make you look good. Thirdly, if you actually read my post properly, there was no harm done to anything. Lastly, “Time to direct my anger towards people instead of things. Time to focus my energy on answers, not excuses.” this is actually meant for people with a higher level of intellect to understand, which I presumed you couldn’t. Grow up? How smart is that for a comment? Are you like those kinda youtube hater or something?

  22. a-ann

    why don’t you try to direct your anger on sports? try boxing or mix martial arts..

  23. isaac

    ok.. joshua.. first of all….nah…i’m not that kind of guy who would debate on/clarify/reinforce my points just to defend my comments or to protect my underlying pride…
    If you would be happier thinking that you have showed an inconsiderate idiot a piece of your mind, then i appologise for being a jerk man…Perhaps you shouldnt give a damn what ppl like me think bout you…then again, perhaps me rudely leaving commments like that made a difference…
    I would really like to end this comment here peacefully, but i think from your perspective its really about you, not me….(lol, You’ll probably snort now if i’d said i left comments coz i cared..)

    Having said that, the question really remains: you really think this angst of yours is not hurting and will not hurt those around you? Really,i’m not out to beat u down, or make me look good or anything… i honestly don’t have enough ego in me worth gratifying anyway… okay, I don’t have your level of intellect, and would be an idiot to claim that i understand you, but you got angry, i guess i unintentionally challenged you… (Ps: Don’t take this the wrong way, if u’r gonna reprimand me bout how i wasnt even worth you getting angry over.. u’d would prob be rite).

    I guess what i am really trying to say is that sometimes we feign helplessness to convince ourselves that there’s really nothing we can/could have done since the issue involves loss of self control..that we just can’t help it doing what we do..thats y i asked whether you have humbled yourself enough to genuinely seek help, to grow up and take responsibility your of actions…I really thought those were conducive.. but i guess its really hard to make grow up sound non sarcastic…

    So yea, i was the jerk that posted rude comments, trying to look smart as you said, you retialiated and everyone knows i suck… but i spent quite a long time on this msg just so that you would see my point and maybe it would help… okay you got me again trying to help ppl thinking of myself as a wise ass, with my messiah comlex and all….. if you want, juz delete this as a moderator, these were really intended only for your eyes neway…the last thing i want is for you to think i’m trying to make you look bad again.. I understand y u reacted the way u reacted and if it counts for anything at all: I really thought that it would have helped… guess i shudnt have acted cool calling you dude and making smirk comments at the start..sorry. Now, my final question: i have put down my pride in hopes that i can get to you, can you put down yours to see where i’m coming from….

  24. haha

    hi joshua, calm down :) ) it’s ok, u will always have your fns to help you snd we will always b there for u…. press on!!!!

    love u :D D

  25. SEVENTY

    振作啊. 你可以的! 你一定可以抛掉杂念的,生活其实很美好.你无聊的时候运动一下,你不是说喜欢弹琴吗? 我还知道你喜欢跑步呢! 不妨试下打羽毛球喔,我觉得挺好玩的,或约几个朋友出去踩单车也是一种乐趣喔!

    加油~ 不可以整天那么垂头丧气的.大家看见你这样也会难过的呀><

    天气转凉了喔.你记得多添点衣服.别着凉了.大伙会心疼你^^

    干吧爹^^

  26. Daphhy-a-ann

    Good idea but it’s a form of art and respect.not a way to direct our anger.though it feels good to punch and kick around as though the “troubles” are your enemies.=)

  27. Daphhy-a-ann

    Chill guys!! Though I’m in no position to say this.=x

  28. sinyue

    Dun be bother by what others say Joshua… So long you noe wat you are doin… No one can bring you down… Jia you! You noe there’s still lots of ppl there for you… Standin behind you supportin you alrite? We will stand by you. =)

  29. Joshua

    It’s all good Isaac. But one thing for sure, I don’t feign helplessness. The only thing I lie about, is the brave front I put in front of myself. That’s what almost everyone does. Everything’s a lie. Even myself. Even you.
    Cheers

  30. Brian

    Hi, when you feel angry, try reflecting upon yourself and asking yourself what makes you angry and why you are angry with it. Does it help the situation to be angry or look angry? And how you can resolve the problem most effectively. And if you can’t think of a solution for the problem that make you angry, then nothing can be done at this moment and so try not ponder over it for a day or two until your mind are more peaceful.

    After you have gone through the above thinking process, long enough before you act on your anger, your agitation has already reduced.

    The above process is difficult at the beginning, but with frequent use of it, it will kicks in automatically whenever things agitate you. You may still feel angry, but you can control whether to act on it…

  31. ah roy

    “pekcek” ,lose ur coolz sometimes ??simple la here is a suggestion 4 u.Store tons of tipbits u like most,so next time u feel unhappy or angry at things,
    devour those tipbits lor.After that go play ur piano lah.Play .. greenDAY – 21GUNS nice song le. Or, just sit down quietly ,close ur eyes and sing songs of praise to GOD ,give thanks give glory to HIM .Get it ???lolzzz

  32. Daphhy

    One question,are you always the pair of listening ears among your friends?

  33. Rebecca

    Hey, how are you feeling now?
    Ignore those people who post useless comments. You feeling better now? One way to release your anger is to let it out. By letting it out, I don’t mean by punching stuff of throwing things around. I meant by communication. Guess what I’m trying to say is that, if you need help, I’m willing to help you. You know, there’s somebody out there, caring for you, getting worried because of you..I give anything, if only you knew it was me… Let me help you. By the way, I found an email address, wondering if it’s yours… I rather not say it out here…

    Rebecca
    yijia_becky@hotmail.com

  34. Drey

    In any case if you feel anger building up in you, frame everything with the words:”Five years later, will it matter?”. Hope it helps. It does for me. :)

  35. Iris

    Maybe everything is happening a little too fast. Maybe you still need a little more alone time to sort yourself out. You’re not sinking into depression? or anything like that, I guess as certain things start to become a reality before you even ready for it, it inevitably rattles the world and course of your life..
    You will definitely face many challenges along the way but life’s not meant to be smooth sailing. Its inevitable for shit to happen, its unavoidable.

    Regardless of what everyone else tells you, always follow your heart and do what you feel is right.
    Everything happens for a reason. You really wouldn’t be the person you are today if it weren’t for the incidents that have happened in the past or the people that you’ve met. But the road of your future still stretches before you. Its time to start living life a lot more meaningfully as well. The road’s not always going to be all cheery but you’re just going to try to wake up each morning with a smile and be that little positive difference. Its going to be awesome days ahead..

    And no matter how tough the journey gets, there will always be those few people who will be there for you through it all, cheering you on, helping you, lending you a shoulder to cry on, being your friend, your family. Just remember, that you’re never alone, there will always be someone who cares..

    Right now, you just slowly picking up the pieces of your shattered heart and dreams.. You will continue pushing on to overcome the challenges. You’re going to trudge on with stronger determination and belief. I know you can do this.

    You need medical help? I don’t think so. I hope that you’re on the road to rediscovering yourself instead. For now though, maybe you just need some ice cream with a sprinkle of rainbow rice….

  36. the-greatescape

    Hey, I agree, you don’t need a neurologist, you only need God. (:
    Always remember that nothing’s too great for God (: So long you ask from the heart by faith, you’ll receive by faith.
    Anger is one of the ways that Satan is using in attempt to separate us from God. When we are angry, we won’t be able to hear what God’s trying to speak to us.
    Give that problem fully to God, be honest with Him; He knows it already so no point hiding from Him.
    Spend more time with Him! Read the word, play or listen to worship songs (I personally think worship songs are the best way to calm angry people down. Maybe it’s because I’m a keyboardist in the worship team hmm), spend quiet time with Him. Things will change for the better.

    God Bless, Shalom. (:

  37. shihui

    Chill Joshua :D
    We love you :D
    Cheers :D

  38. isaac... maybe i should pretend to be someone else...

    lol, true.. true… but so what if everything’s a lie, then i guess that just make truths really just lies that can stand the test of time. U might not agree with me, but some lies are worth defending and living for, more than the truth.. And y don’t you look at the bright side of things; would you rather accept the worst inside everyone of us, or can you find the heart to accept that its what we strive to be that defines us, not who we are underneath….

  39. Iris

    Memorize this rhyme and abide by it,
    it will save you a lot of pain.

    “Liquor before beer, never fear. Beer before liquor, never sicker.”

  40. yu

    hey! there is nothing wrong with you, seriously, its just a way of you venting your anger. i m a psychology major, so if there is anything you can talk to people about it.

    cheer up and be positive. =)

  41. Rebecca

    Joshua, take a look at all the comments you received! Alot of people care for you. Even though we’re just strangers to you, but to us, you’re our friend! (i think I’m speaking for everyone in here, if not I’m speaking bout myself)
    You have people who care for you by your side each day, people who express theis care for you by giving you words of encouragement etc. What more could you ask for!
    Look at the bright side of things. Yea, life’s a struggle, but at the end, there’s always a bright light. Everyone has hard times, but it’ll be over soon.
    Remember, even if it’s the end of the world, there’s still three people who loves you: God, Jesus and me (as a friend)

    All the best!
    Rebecca

  42. Gilbert

    yo, cute cute here, remember mi? ur campmate cum ur bunkmate! stay cool man! meet out sometime! drink or drunk!!

  43. JMonster

    Hwaiting! ( it means jiayou in korean )
    hope you get your confident back and also don be sad anymore .=D

  44. Hope

    Psalm 118:5 (NIV) In my anguish, I cried out to the LORD, and HE answered by setting me free.

  45. anako

    Hmmmmmmmmmm….. seem like you really stress ..cool down men … everyone will face this situation ..but it depends on how they handle ^ ^.

    Try do something you like …or give yourself a rest ….Try give yourself live in your own “secret place” . Everyone have their own secret place .

  46. peishan

    生老病死是人生中不能避免的過程
    你媽媽也不會希望看到你這樣
    希望你能挨過去
    不要讓身邊關心你的人難過
    加油
    上帝愛你

  47. Amber

    He will give u peace

  48. Jessy

    Cheer up….
    and take it as a challenge in life…
    gambateh~!

  49. Psb

    Wow.U are a really diff person in the virtual and also in the outside world.Sorry for my bad english.

  50. yy

    watch the show “anger management” by adam sandler.
    it will help to ligthen up your day((:

  51. Rebecca

    When you feel angry ,you can tell yourself to calm down.You can if you want.

  52. Rebecca

    You better now? Been praying for you everyday. May God sooth you and calm you down.

    God Bless~

    Love,
    Rebecca

  53. Rebecca

    Is life stressful for you? Being an actor and all…
    Please answer my question, I would really like to know. Thanks.

    God be with you always.

    Rebecca

  54. tonette

    hey josh!

    Condolence..

    I guess that what you are trying to act right now is a normal compensatory mechanism to lessen your grief and anger that you feel deep within you!

    However, I advice you to manage your anger and being “hot tempered”,cause sometimes when we aren’t able to control it within us, we may perhaps go into too much depression and it can ruin our mood! why not take a sleep when you’re angry or eat!
    (…hehe Im sorry it may not be too significant to you cause you’re a busy person!)

    Aja aja, Still I know you’re a good person always pray and be a blessing to everyone!

  55. J-Fan

    Josh… Read her true story, available at all MPH bookstores, perhaps it’ll help u. The author website is http://www.kasandrakong.com

  56. Amanda

    Sometimes life gets stressful. Don’t forget to take time out for yourself if you’re feeling under pressure, and when things don’t go your way, don’t feel too bad. We get over it eventually. Some things are out of our hands. Release your anger through another outlet like sport or music, perhaps. Take care~

    ‘G’DAY’ from a fan in Australia and 加油吧!

  57. pamela

    Hi!
    Just a gentle reminder, never let anger control you. Seeking for medical help may be one of the choice. But, it still depends on yourself to control your anger.
    Patience is the key for managing your anger. Try to take thing easy and work things out or find someone for help if you can’t get thing right.

    Jia you and may GOD bless you!
    :)

  58. linlin

    whywhy? hehe dont be mad sunshine boy :)

  59. Yonghui

    hey,i do get angry too,so yeah..its a kind of growing up i believe,i do throw things on the floor.etc but trust me,ur way better ,atleast u wana get help. stay strong be happy,and just forget about what happend (:

  60. Willey Wang

    Hey Joshua!
    Cheer up! Think about the happy things and your beloved cassie:)
    YOu’ll be fine!
    We all love u !

  61. Rebecca

    Joshua, please take note that there are 2 Rebecca’s in here!!! :)
    Do something you enjoy to take you mind off things. Maybe play the piano?

    All the best, support you always.

    Rebecca

  62. Allison

    well, don’t be angry. Just try to be calm. I think there are many hardtime in your life, so you have to face and slove it.

  63. jacqueline.

    heyhey , hope u are alright by now . my temper are bad . i often get little out of hand . i even scolded my parents ! i think u can manage and solve it ! add oil ! (:

  64. Qisha

    Why didnt yous post,saying you’re going to ION to do some needy fund things?hah,i guess if yous do so,many of your fans will be there to support:)

  65. Joshua

    LINLIN IMU!!

  66. dionis★

    I also have anger problems ):

  67. sh

    i guess it is just part and parcel of life-discovering our true self and our purpose in life, especially at our adolescence stage. i’m trying to figure out mine too.
    Cheers.

  68. Yanyu

    Hi Joshua.It seems that you’re a man of few words and are facile.You said you” feel so short tempered”,maybe you should have shown you feeling to others.
    Or the weather is so hot that you can’t be master of your emotions?
    Or is there a root on your mind?
    I don’t think feeling angry is wrong, but not too often.You said ” need medical help” ,you can have a go,if necessary.
    The important thing is that you can face your trouble,it’s better than you just feel angry.
    I hope you can get better when you really realize that anger is taking others’ mistakes torture yourself.

  69. Evonne (:

    Think u shld take a rest to balance yr mood~ who know, after u take a rest back maybe wil had some changes? and no more moody? haa :D rest 1 or 2 days also can say rest ma xD Lol relax … perhaps is your work stress bah~ don pressure up yourself too much~ haa Jia You ar :)

  70. Jane

    在我心中,你永远是最棒的!加油!

  71. Rebecca

    It’s been a week and a half since you posted this post. How are you now? Better I hope… All your family, friends and fans are worried about you. Really hope you’re ok now.
    You know, yesterday I watch the dvd “i not stupid”. You were so young then. Of course, then you were younger and had less worries. You made alot of great achievements over the past few years. Look at you now! You’re one of the best and well-known actor in Singapore!
    Do you think that maybe you’re stress? Maybe stress is what’s causing your anger? Take a break Joshua!

    God bless you.

    Friend/stranger,
    Rebecca

  72. Xuexue

    Cheer up :D
    It takes nothing to give a smile (:

    with loves ,
    Cheryl

  73. 香香

    时间会让你从悲伤中脱离而出的
    佛曰:生老病死,我们只有适当地悲哀一下,
    才能让亲人走得更加的安心与无牵无挂~~
    相信你会做到的,加油,赐健~~因为你是男子汉~

  74. amanda

    hello . =)
    nice blog u have .
    Pls visit mine . Thanks !

  75. Jonah Huang

    Hi Josh. We do not know each other personally but I do visit your site once in a while. Can I recommend you a Christian minister by the name of Joyce Meyer?
    http://www.joycemeyer.org/ourministries/broadcast/?myVar=9

    She has very practical teaching in regards to emotional well-being. Personally, I have been very very helped by her teaching. If you are serious about dealing with the root of the problem rather than just making sure you do not ‘explode’ anymore, this might be a start. Praying for you. -jonah

  76. meowz

    hey…happen to be ard bedok res residential area today evening?? Saw somemore who looks like u….
    Anyway just wanna say “Jia Yoü” to ya…
    & was actually thinking….instead of venting ur anger,thrashing things, y not let it out through playing music, drums perhaps? =) take care

  77. Fiona

    Hey Josh, are you feeling better?

  78. brad

    It’s normal…just hit the gym hard, or body combat class…it’s great for releasing angst!

  79. Psb

    Me too .
    I have anger management . Family , frens all cnt stand me .
    They say i haven change a bit . But i did try my best to change and have better temper and i think that i did it. Nobody seriously gives a damn abt me ! But wat abt u ? See , all ur fans are behind u ! Wat do i have ?! Nothing at all ! Do i have fans that will support me ? NO.U have . I believe u can do it !
    Everyone is behind u .. Unlike me .
    U shld be happy ya ! Live to ur fullest ! ^^
    I am writing this not only to comfort u but also to comfort myself .
    Hope that u will be fine !
    Cheer up alright !

  80. Rebecca

    Joshua, how are you now? Feeling better or still erupting? Please respond to my comment and let me know that you’re all right now. One question, hope you don’t mind. Erm… Can you accept me as your friend? No other meaning, I just want to be friends with you. Hope you don’t mind of hate me because of that…

    Rebecca

  81. xin

    每次当我生气或伤心时,我都会听听抒情的音乐来放松自己,可以试试看,希望帮到你。

  82. yl

    Nice verse, Hope ;) Leave it to the Lord when you’re at your wit ends, Joshua. He’ll guide you all the days of your life.

  83. Krizia

    Time is the best medical help;) And it’s free!!!lol..
    God Bless You^^

  84. jiale

    It takes a lot of boldness and courage to type, “God help me.” It lowers oneself completely and acknowledge that we were mere humans and a need for God. A public display of your need for God is courageous and worthy of praise. God bless you indeed Josh. AND after reading your “Avoidance”, can’t but agree that running away is NOT the key to solving anything. The truth is, face it, talk to God, and seek His help to help you to release everything to Him. Only then will there be true freedom. That’s the reason He came to die for everyone, to set us FREE! Once again, God bless you Bro!

  85. Zihan

    Haven’t been here for a long time and realised there are so many things going on! Hope you’re alright now, since it’s over a long time (:

    & I was thinking, are you in any church right now? Just to share with you, God has always been there for me and would be for you :D

    God bless, take care.

  86. 寂寞女孩

    每个人的路多不一样,但不要放弃。你还有我们,你有你的梦想不要应为某些原因而放弃,你是最棒的哦。祝你事业有成!

  87. Teoh

    Hey! Jy in your life! Don’t pressure yourself ;D

  88. eunice

    well i don’t think everything is a lie, joshua..
    :/

    god surely isn’t..
    well…I hope you are happy, I wish to bump into someday
    :D

  89. Can't stop this feeling anymore

    Exactly how long have you been exposed to MediaCorp? I don’t know why anyone would force an individual to listen to REO Speedwagon in a taxi. In amerika we call it death by suck. Completely removes your soul.

  90. anger management

    If you can do blog, there is still plenty of hope for you.
    Just keep on doing one more, then again one more, and pretty soon you would have your energy focused on it.

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